Rav Dessler: Love Grows Through Giving

We have been accustomed to think that giving is a result of love, but in truth, love is a result of giving.

Attribution printed on the image: Rav Eliyahu Dessler, Michtav Me’Eliyahu

A reflection on the teaching

We often wait to feel affection before making an effort for someone. The teaching printed here suggests that thoughtful giving can also help affection grow. Time, attention and practical care connect us to the person receiving them. That does not mean giving without limits or accepting mistreatment in the hope of creating love. Choose a willing, appropriate act of care rather than one driven by guilt. In a healthy relationship, repeated small efforts may help us become more invested and attentive. What is one act of giving you can offer freely today?

Source note: The attribution above is transcribed from the image. The exact source and English wording have not been independently verified.